Our good friends Shaun and Laura broke up today. They hadn't been getting along for a few months now. Add to that her wanting to get married and practically making him get her a VERY expensive diamond and promises of marriage, it was just too much pressure for the both of them and neither of them were happy. We had known it wasn't going well for the last month or so, but I never dreamed they would break up. Around 6:30 tonight Laura showed up and I could tell she had been crying. They had gone back to her home town this weekend like they do every other weekend. She's wanting to move back there and work for her mom when she graduates from hair styling school. It's something they've planned and it something SHE wants. Add to that he's very close to his family and still relies on them and doesn't want to move that far away (2+ hours). Add to that she's very mature and she acts like his mother and he's very immature and he acts like her kid. It's been a rocky road for both of them. She tells us they broke up and he was moving out. His dad and brother were there moving his things out and she couldn't stand to be there. So Jax and I talked to her for a while and tried to calm her down. After a while she wanted to go back up there, just to make sure he wasn't taking anything he wasn't supposed to (that's SO Laura LOL). Jax went with her. She was bawling and a mess and Shaun was just as bad as she was, if not worse. After a while I went up there and went and found Shaun in the back bedroom. I gave him a big hug and told him I was sorry. He clung to me. He doesn't know what to do. Neither of them have been happy lately. It needed to happen, but it didn't make it even easier. You could tell he didn't want to leave. He was piddling around. Laura was busy sitting on the floor in the bathroom throwing up. He was bawling. Jax and I left them alone and went into the bedroom while they said goodbye. We came out and Shaun was in the doorway. He couldn't leave. So I went outside with him and talked to him for a while. He's devastated. Jax is in with Laura who is now throwing up in the kitchen sink. It was hard to see. They had Jax and I both in tears. It's been hard. The hardest thing about it all is I feel their pain. To my very soul. I can physically feel the pain in my body because I know exactly how they feel. It's palpable. I know what their days are going to be like. Not being able to function, just going to work and living life, not even conscious of time going by them. The lonliness of it all is complete devastation. The house that is now more empty but yet the pictures of them are still in their place. She can't even get up off the couch. He probably cried all the way home. Nothing to think about during that 30+ minute drive but to think about her and what happened. His stuff is no longer there. HE is no longer there. He won't cuddle up with her in bed tonight, she won't cuddle up with him. It's heartbreaking and it's not even me. But oh, I feel for both of them. The sights, the smells, the feelings, they all come rushing back to me. The hurt, the feelings, the inability to think or feel. It all came back to me. And I feel for both of them. I made Shaun smile when I told him that this whole thing is a lot easier when we hate one of them. That's very true. If she's my friend and her boyfriend is a jerk and I hate him, it's easy to slam him and tell her it's a good thing. But when you like both of them and want nothing but to see them together, it hurts. He kept saying "I told you this is just a break right?" and she kept saying yes. I can't predict whether they'll get back together or not but I think they will. It may not last, but I don't think we're done seeing the end of him. He has a lot of growing up to do. He needs to become a responsible adult and manage his money and keep a job and show her that he can keep up his side of things. She needs to be a little more laid back with him and not constantly nag him. After all he had a mother (she died when he was a kid) and he doesn't need a new one. He doesn't need to be reminded of what he's doing wrong and she needs to be proud when he does things right. It's a give and take situation. And one that won't fix itself, unfortunately. I told both of them that they needed some time apart to try and get happy, and if they don't get happy then they know they are meant to be together. I do know one thing and that is that they both love each other more than anything. And sometimes you have to love somebody enough to let them go. So it's been a drama filled night and Jax is still up there, comforting Laura. She can't be alone right now. She's just shot. Emotionally and physically drained. The girl can't even think straight. I have no idea how she's going to even sleep tonight but I did take some Tylenol PM to her and told her to take some if she can't get to sleep. I have no clue how she's going to sleep tonight. I've never in my life been affected so personally by a break-up. I've never cried for other people before, only myself. So this is new territory for me. And I know that they both walk away loving each other very much and wanting to be together, but needing to work out their issues first before they can even think about trying to make it work. Here's to hoping it does work out. I like them both alot and you won't find any nicer kids out there. I'm pullin for ya Shaun and Laura. I hope that you will be together, but the most important thing is that you are happy. Because being happy is what life is all about. past and future A few hours my ass! - 2007-05-07
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I am a 34-year-old college student, mom, friend and all around sarcastic and fun loving person. I'm going to school to be a nurse. I recently quit a high paying job from home to get back into the hospital setting and to get my feet wet in nursing. I work on the Maternal Child Unit which includes the birthing center, perinatal care and Pediatrics. I LOVE IT! These last few years have been all about changes in my life. Although they have required great sacrifice, I know it will be worth it when I'm through. I have a great life and great family and friends and occasionally bitch about my white trash neighbors. Mostly here you will find rants and raves about various people, places, and circumstances. ENJOY! Loves: Nursing, chocolate, my daughter, family and friends, diet coke, Grey's Anatomy (DUH!), being out of my front patio in the summertime with my neighbors, babies, US Weekly magazine, reality TV, being smart and being a mother. Hates: Chemistry, online cyberstalkers who have no life but to be online 24/7 causing drama, my white trash neighbors, pepporoni pizza, mice, bugs, when it's too hot outside and I get sweaty, seafood, backstabbing people, liars, crooks, and when people play the "victim" and whine 24/7.
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